Is your definition of success a fatal mistake?
你对成功的概念是一个致命错误吗?
For some, success is defined in terms of the dollar amount on a paycheck. For others, it's the title on their business card. Others may define success in terms of the accolades1 and awards they have won.
有的人用薪水概念成功。对另一些人来讲,成功是名片上的头衔。其它人或许依据赞誉和奖励来概念。
But the problem with how people define success these days is that when they're forced to change it, they can't. Look at the businessmen who have committed suicide because they have lost fortunes. Consider the workers who are fired and then go back to work, armed with a gun.
对于不少人来讲,问题在于,让他们改变自己对于成功的概念是不可能的。看看那些由于损失钱财而自杀的商人,想想被解雇后带了一只枪回企业的职员。
Extreme cases, sure. Not everyone considers killing2 themselves or others when their livelihood3 is threatened. But it does point out that maybe we need to revisit our own definition of success.
当然,这类都是极端例子。并非每一个人在生计遭到威胁的时候会自杀或杀人。但这的确说明,或许大家需要重新概念成功。
Start by completing this definition: Success to me is....
第一,完成这个句子:成功对我而言是......
After you complete this sentence, then review it and determine if you're on the path to achieving that success. If you were to lose your job or money tomorrow, would your definition of success still be valid4? Or, would you consider yourself a failure?
当你完成了这个句子,然后重新审视一下,你是不是处于获得这种成功的轨道上。假如你明天失去工作或钱财,你对成功的概念还有效吗?你会觉得自己是一个失败者吗?
I remember a job where I worked long, stressful hours and often labored5 for a boss who had mood swings like a freaking roller coaster. It made for a tense situation, to say the least. One day I was talking to a co|worker and the exhaustion6 was overwhelming. I felt so dissatisfied, frustrated7 and even angry. Then it hit me: If I died that day, I didn't want the only thing on my tombstone to be Always met her deadlines.
我曾长期从事一份有重压的工作,情绪无常的老板叫人心力交瘁,至少让局势紧张。一天,同事交谈时,我感到筋疲力尽。我感觉很不满、沮丧甚至是愤怒。忽然萌生一个想法:假如我那天去世了,我可不想我的墓志铭只有一句:总能按时完成任务。
Ugh, I remember thinking. I wanted my life to account for more than that. It wasn't until months later that I started making some real changes in my life, changes that I know made me much better able to balance my life and devote time and effort to more than my job.
呃,我考虑着,我期望生活有更多意义。数月后,我开始对生活做出一些切实改变,让我更能平衡生活,而不仅仅是把时间和精力花在工作上。
Right now, times are tough and some of us are beginning to panic. But I think it's a golden opportunity to really think about what is important in your life, and weed out the things that don't really matter.
时下不景气,有的人开始惊恐。但我觉得这是一个千载难逢的机会,叫你认真考虑你的日常什么是关键的,并剔除那些不重要的东西。
You are the one who must define what success is to you. One thing I know for sure: You are more than a job title, you are worth more than a number on a paycheck and you are more than an award to hang on your wall. Is the destination you have in mind worth the road you must travel? only you can answer that.
只有你一个人能为自己概念成功。有一点我了解:你不仅意味着一个头衔,不仅意味着薪资单上的数字,也不仅意味着挂在墙上的那个奖励。为了到达你心中的目的地,你肯定得走如此一条路吗? 只有你能回答。